I've wanted to be a mom since I was old enough to carry around a baby doll, so naturally, when I got married and settled into an at-home job, I set out to convince my husband it was time to fill our home with all the babies.
Now, I'm sitting alone at my kitchen table at 9:00pm, looking around my mess of a home, and wondering what on earth I got myself into. As my 10-month-old gets more mobile and requires more of my attention, life gets harder to balance.
I know there have got to be hundreds (if not thousands) of mamas in my shoes, so I thought I'd share the three things I focus on to "keep it together".
To be honest, I feel a bit under-qualified to write a blog on such a topic, but here we go...
1.) Get your kiddo(s) on a schedule.
I can't stress this enough. Predictability and structure will be your best friend. When you know you have an hour or two to yourself at 10am every morning, you can set aside time to get your most attention-hogging tasks done. Then, you can spend real time with your kids when they want to play. I waited way too long to do this and I was drowning in a whirlpool of exhaustion. I felt like I was always behind in every part of my life, no matter how hard I tried to get it together. (If you need as much help as I did, I recommend Oh Baby Consulting. Jamie will work with your family's lifestyle and needs to create a plan that works just for you. I'm eternally grateful.)
2.) Spend intentional, focused time with your kids.
This one can be hard. Between cooking meals, cleaning up messes, kissing bumps and bruises, and every other task that comes along with momming, it can feel like you're always scrambling. This is why a schedule is so important. The same way you carve out time for work, you can set aside time to just be present with your kids. Leave your electronics in the other room and enjoy their creative little minds for all they're worth.
3.) Give yourself grace.
So. Much. Grace. You are working TWO jobs (at least) as a working mama. When the dishes pile up and the clean laundry never makes it off the couch, remember that those things do not define you. You have tiny humans whose worlds revolve around you, and you're doing everything you can to provide for them. That's what matters most.
And remember this: You and I? We are rockstars. No one can do what we do. We don't always have all the answers, we don't always keep our cool, but we always make it work.
What makes your life easier as a work-at-home mama?