When I retired from playing professional golf to start a family with my husband, I didn’t anticipate the hardships I would actually take on. Not only were we starting a family, but I was starting a business and the transition was emotionally exhausting.
It's hard to explain if you've never played a professional sport; It’s like you lost a part of yourself that you’ve known for so long.
The transition was scary.
Staying home with my son was something I had ALWAYS wanted to do. With that said, I had ALWAYS wanted to be a working mom as well. It's the best of both worlds. Or is it?
I call it working from home, but it's really much more. I am the CEO and running about 100 events a year by myself. We operate about 150 events as a company a year, and manage over 30 contractors, and I'm traveling all over the world working some of our events too.
I still remember the first day my husband went back to work after we had our son. I think I cried 10 different times.
I was overwhelmed with my work, and my new undertaking of being a mom. The room felt smaller and my “job” was no longer to hit a golf ball, but to keep my baby alive. That is a HUGE change.
I know other moms can relate to this feeling, but for me, going from golfing to being a stay at home, working mom, was a slap in the face. Not to mention his first 2 months of life, I was nursing and pumping to save milk for a work incentive trip my husband got. That was a huge stressor as well. Breastfeeding isn’t for everyone, but that was something important to me. We all know how hard it is, so the stress of pumping and saving enough milk before we left (at his ripe age of 11 weeks), was CRAZY. Add all that to the mix, along with the hormones running through my body and building a company from nothing, it's easy to start to lose yourself!
There is a light at the end of the tunnel moms.
If you are working from home, whatever that may look like, I can promise you, it gets better. For me, I needed a routine that allowed me to work, and still have time for my son. We did a schedule early on for our son so that he was sleeping 7am-7pm by 7 weeks. (We had hoped for those 12 hour stretched by 12 weeks, but Brayden had other plans, which I wasn’t mad about!) I know it’s not everyones cup of tea, and I am not going to get into sleep training right now, but the E.A.S.Y schedule was eye opening for me. Having him on a daily schedule where I KNEW he was napping 1.5 hours 3 times a day, changed my life. I became a completely different parent. I had time to shower, eat, work, nap, you name it.
Have a consistent schedule.
My biggest piece of advice to stay-at-home working moms or those considering this type of arrangement is to have a consistent schedule during the day that you can repeat all week. This helped tremendously. I would schedule conference calls, catch up on emails and even have time for myself when I needed to. I was able to be a better parent to our son, and CEO for our company.
You’re doing a great job, mama. Find time for yourself, your business and most importantly, your family. Don’t lose sight of the phase of life you’re in, and embrace your husband, kids, and everything you have going for you.