There is a lot of controversy when the words “sleep training” come up. For me, staying home with my son and working pretty much full time, I knew I had to ensure my baby slept.
It was about when I was 6 months pregnant, I brought sleep training up to my husband. Initially he didn’t agree with the idea and immediately thought, “I’m not letting my baby cry it out.” I told him, that’s not what it is. In the beginning it’s more of sleep conditioning. Doing things to guide your baby to better sleep.
The reason I knew all of this was because I had done my research. Most people hear sleep training and automatically think, cry it out. Sleep training doesn’t always mean that if you start early enough. A friend of mine recommended, Arizona Baby Services. Desiree, the owner of the company does consults as well as overnight care. I knew I wanted a consult. We didn’t pull the trigger on hiring Desiree until our son was nine days old. I still remember the day I said to my husband, I cannot do this. I need some guidance. I knew that working from home, I couldn’t just “wing it,” I’m not that type of person.
Everyone who’s brought their newborn home knows how stressful it is. Sleep is non existent and you have no clue what you’re doing. When Desiree came into our home, I instantly could breathe again. I cried when she was over at the thought of being able to feel normal again. Desiree spent three hours at our house. She went over EVERYTHING. Breastfeeding, bottle feeding, swaddling, nursery, naps, you name it. She was the baby whisperer.
That night, we put Brayden in his crib. Yep, day nine. I’m not going to lie, I cried and was terrified. He was safe, swaddled and the sound machine on in his dark room. He slept three hours... THREE. Straight hours, in his crib. Then only woke up twice the first night to nurse.
We followed Desiree’s guidelines for the rest of the night and into the next day. It was unreal. I had a completely different baby. My son napped three full 1.5 hour naps in his crib and one cat nap. We had a routine, structure and he thrived with that. Babies need the structure so they can be consistent. It was tough on me because I was home all day with him, so my husband basically said, you do what you want! So, I sleep trained our son.
It was a tough couple of weeks getting the schedule down, but Desiree helped us each step of the way. We did a schedule called three hour easy schedule. It took us about 6 weeks and our baby was sleeping 7am-7pm, by 7 weeks. Our son did not cry for more than 5 min. He did not have the four month sleep regression, he never wakes up because of teething and or being sick. He can also sleep anywhere and can go with the flow. All the things you think you know about sleep training, you probably haven’t even touched the surface.
I’m so thankful we took that leap to hire Desiree! I have had an ample amount of time with my husband since our son was 7 weeks old. Our son goes to bed and we can actually catch up on the day and just relax together. People always ask, “oh, your son is 21 months, are you sleeping yet?” Yep, I’ve been getting a lot of sleep since he was 7 weeks old. Breastfed him until he was 15 months and he’s been nothing but an all star every step of the way.
If you’re pregnant, or a new mom, or even a mom to an 8 month old, there is hope. Sleep can be fixed, your baby will nap, and you can have time to yourself and with your spouse...you just need structure. And for us, Desiree was our savior. If you’re on the fence, hop over it, the grass is much greener on this side ;)