Try this instead of your standard to-do list

I follow Kristina Kuzmic, who is a hilarious vlogger and cheerleader for parents. She joked that she once had a to-do list so long it was abusive. Ladies, I’m telling you, I can so relate.


I could fill a page with work/family/health/home/school tasks needing completion. If you are an adult, you get me. Once I get past a certain number of tasks on the list though, the only thing my to-do list does for me is throw me into full blown overwhelm.


I have a busy mind most of the time. I have a hard time switching off, and I sometimes feel like a ping-pong game is being played in my head. So I have to get all those to-do’s and remember to’s out and on paper. The problem is, there’s not much that stresses me out more than a way too long to-do list. On paper. Staring me in the face.


I stumbled upon an article with a very simple, counterintuitive idea. Make a “not-to-do” list. It’s more realistic to expect myself to finish 1, 2 or 3 tasks in a day while I’m also working, momming, adulting, etc. The things on the not-to-do list? They can wait.


I’m still working on it. I have not fully accepted the idea that a couple tasks a day is better than throwing a list of 10 to-do’s together and slapping it on my counter. But I am learning. And when I get it, I feel so good. That ping-pong ball takes a little break. I am satisfied, rather than disappointed, at the end of the day that I got two things done. One, I accomplished something. Two, I refrained from stressing myself out. Now that is self care.


How do you organize your to-do list, to make it a "done" list?



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